the reality of (real)love

‘What is REAL?’ asked the Rabbit one day, as they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, just before Nana came in to tidy up the room. ‘Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?’‘Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real, you don’t mind being hurt.’

‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit’?

‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real, you can’t be ugly except to people who don’t understand.’

- – Marjorie Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

4 Responses to “the reality of (real)love”


  1. 1 davidforyou June 14, 2007 at 12:18 am

    i love it!

  2. 2 nikkkkkkkkkkkkkkkki June 16, 2007 at 11:07 am

    wow. you come across the best books!
    no kidding. inspired! hmm, whether its enough right now to study? i dont know.

    HOLIDAYS SOON!
    love ya plenty!

  3. 3 christina June 29, 2007 at 2:37 am

    i cried when i read this book as a child. in retrospect it’s so haunting and lovely
    hello i think you’ve read my blog before, i do like reading like yours :)


  1. 1 the grass grows. Trackback on July 17, 2007 at 5:54 pm

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